Rop Ferendez (Humanity)

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Tuesday, July 07, 2009

I just feel like posting a topic today.
It's with regards to my parents.
And also my Brother aka Mentor taught me as well.
It's quoted from Prophet Muhhammad (pbuh).
Not really quote, but just the information.

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Remember the Triple Sevens.

Well, not the Jackpot.
But Remember the Triple Sevens.
In raising your child.

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From the time when he's born till he's Seven.

Give him/her unconditional love.
Don't make them feel hurt or sad.
Refrain from scolding them.
Be with them whenever you can.
Remember, Unconditional Love.

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From the age of Seven to the age of Fourteen.
If they disobey you, reason with them.
If they still disobey you, hit them.

But only with the strength of your two fingers.
Two Fingers.
Still, love them.

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From the age of Fourteen to the age of Twenty-One.
Be a friend to them, much less of a parent.
Don't block their flow of creativities.
Let them express themselves.
Don't just say "Yes", or "No".
Let them think.

Offer them into a small discussion.
Let them think, let them think, and let them think.
Give them both moral and physical support.
Maybe to the extent of financial support as well.
Reason with them more, let them think.
And still, Love them.

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Share an unbreakable bond.

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Everything needs to be in a system, an Orderly manner.
You shouldn't put step 2 first and then step 1 last.
That's why most parents are teaching their kids "Wrongly".
Kids shut their "Door of Trust" tightly against their parents.

Simply, let me put my analogy here.

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When a kid is born till he's Seven.
Love him unconditionally.
Let him make mistakes.
Don't punish him, let him be (to a certain extent).
And, Love him Unconditionally.
His Door of Trust will naturally be opened.

When he's Seven to he's Fourteen.
If he disobey, reason with him.
If he still disobey, beat him.
But only with the strength of Two Fingers.
And Love him still.
By stating reasons to him, he will understand things better.
And beat him so that he won't commit mistakes again.
His Door of Trust will quiver slightly, but however...
Little pain with more reasoning, can be a trusty servant.

When he's Fourteen to Twenty-One.
Be a Friend.
Offer him into discussions.
Support him whenever possible.
His Door of Trust will definitely, maintain, and grow overtime with you.

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It's quite a way to maintain great ties with your parents.
But I guess whenever I voice my opinions, my parents just shut me down.
How I wish they could love me in a proper way.

Sometimes, I just blame my tradition and my racial cultures.
In a way, it affects my bloodline of generations before me.
Which incorporated to conservative-ness, and traditional thinkings.

Despite saying these, it's what makes the world different from one another.
God makes different communities, not for us to discriminate differences among ourselves.
But more of sharing ideas with one another.
Which makes life interesting.

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My father told me that I should have a Girlfriend, Career...
and when I eventually have a Family,
that's when I should think of my Religion.

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But right now, I confirmed that.
I should have a Religion as my base - a strong Foundation.
So that I could build these essential Pillars of my life.
And my religion is more than a religion...
It's a deen.
It's the way of life.
My way of life.

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Credits : FlickR, Yahoo.
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When I have my kid one day...
I know what to do...

A strong Father-Son bond.

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Assalamualaikum.
May my family be a better and stronger bond within us.
May you, too.

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Diary @ ~~7/07/2009 02:07:00 AM;~~